We all have watched that one romantic movie that has made us fall in love. It is the idea of falling in love that our generation has loved and adapted time and again. We hate flaws and are so obsessed with perfectionism that we will find flaws in every person. Either we find someone too short, too tall, too fair, too dark, too fat or too skinny. These aren’t the only labels that we have to deal with. A person hanging out a lot with the opposite gender is also taken quite negatively in our society.
Meet someone new, exchange numbers, add them on social networking websites, late-night conversations, those long question-answer sessions and going out on dates etc. We know the drill all too well, don’t we? Most of haven’t been in love, it’s the idea! The thrill that excites us. Did we really mess up the concept of love? It is like a game for us! The CHASE; a better way to rephrase it. Once that ends, it ends!!
Others who have been devastated because of love are reluctant to let go, so what if it didn’t work in the first go? It doesn’t mean you can’t love again. We are bitter to let go, to come out of the delusion that our happily ever after is not so happy after all.
We all are hopeless in love, we don’t want to settle for less and that is the cause for the rapid procedure. We fall in love in a speed more greater than light but falling out of it is twice the pace of light. Hence, most of us are afraid to label our relations. Why? because the whole world will know and if it won’t work? It would be a shame. The idea of love is for two people not the world. Why do we care about what other people think? We are afraid of defining relations because then people would know. And we’d not be able to end this ‘thing’ as easily as we would have.
And then, most of us are finding love on FACEBOOK, TINDER, OKCUPID, POF and many more. We are available but never available, we are out there – on social media websites, on dating apps, at parties, but all this while, are we really available? Delete Tinder, meet them rather than adding them on Facebook, have a conversation rather then emojis and DON’T BE AFRAID.
Give it a chance, make it real!
Natasha Nadeem ( Blogger and Photographer, IULS )